The Obvious

My partner in life sometimes complains about something she describes as "the obvious." It is as if I insult her by saying something that is a "foregone conclusion," not necessarily trite, but unwelcome. I don't mean to insult her, of course, and thus find myself apologizing for what I probably intended as a clarification. Often the obvious is unspoken because clarification is not deemed important, and could be unwelcomed as mention above.

Something that might seem obvious is the thought that a lot of what one knows is in a general stream of consciousness, out of which we may pick a combination of concepts/words to solve or describe a problem new or different to us. Specialists might not go through the trouble, since the process does not interest them since the subject or problem does not fall within the purview of their specialization. How to manage the obvious without insult to others? It seems that risks must be taken one way or another.