Baby Talk and Cutesy

I have been put off my entire life by baby talk,  the talking down to someone,  especially children and elderly people;  and especially with a change of voice tone,  plus attitude.   Cutesy talk is the reverse side of the same "coin,"  and is equally disgusting in my view.  I may be wrong,  but my feeling is that this is especially endemic with the so-called "Boomer"  generation,  although I know it goes back far before that generation became so dominant in our society and will undoubtedly be an influence in other generations extant and to come.

It may be that I am a little oversensitive as an eighty year old,  because I am a prime candidate for such talk and attitude.  And I have watched/listened in horror as I've observed "care givers" indulging in this stuff with people I know.  One of my dear friends has the added complication of forgetfulness and dementia,  so that people caring for him seemingly do not have to be cognizant of any insults which may be given to him via their attitudes (!).

Thinking about this for myself,  I discovered a kind of parallel problem when trying to speak with people in other countries in their language,  or in a simplified version of English. You want to "get through,"  but (and I can remember several very insulting incidents to this day) then found that either the person I was speaking with was fluent in English,  or was offended that I subjected them to what amounted to baby talk in their language.  

Thinking back to my own family,  I never remembered my Father or Uncles baby talking to my Grand Mother Nellie Mae in anything close to baby talk.   The same goes for Grand Father Roberts,  although he didn't live to a "ripe old age," and thus be potentially subjected to such talk.   As for my Father and Mother,  I don't remember them being subjected to the baby nor the cutesy either.   Can I ask the dear reader of this to be careful in this area of speech?  Thank you, much appreciated.